Which means you prooobably have a few questions. Using lube is a must during anal play, Joseph Frankhouse , M. Anal penetration without adequate lubrication can cause the tissue in your anus to tear. Not only is that painful, it also makes you more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections , like gonorrhea and HIV , board-certified ob-gyn Jacques Moritz, M.
Still, adding a ton of lube to the mix makes you less likely to tear and more likely to have fun. When it comes to lube , you pretty much have three options: oil-based, silicone-based, and water-based. Oil-based and silicone-based lubes are thicker and longer-lasting, making them great for anal play. Not all toys are anal-safe! Other than that, sex educator Jill McDevitt , Ph. Numbing creams that use anesthetics like benzocaine are widely available. Your nerve endings are sensitive for a reason.
They alert your brain to pain so you can prevent yourself from getting seriously injured, Dr. Chinn says. By numbing your anus, you or your partner could be pushing your body past its point of comfort without even realizing it. Instead, just take things slowly and communicate with your partner. Unless you and your partner are sexually monogamous and have both been tested recently, you should use condoms during anal sex to reduce to risk of sexually transmitted infections and HIV, Dr.
Yup, you can get STIs in your butt. It can also spread to your urethra, where it can cause a urinary tract infection UTI. According to the Mayo Clinic , this can cause symptoms like constantly needing to pee, then a burning sensation when you do, along with cloudy urine and pelvic pain.
Long story short? Speaking of…. Food starts in your stomach, where it gets broken down. Then it passes through your small intestine, where it gets digested even more. The remaining food waste, aka poop, gets stored in your large intestine, which is a long tube also known as the colon, according to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases NIDDK.
Your brain receives the signal that you need to head to the bathroom sometime soon, and your rectum stores the stool until you voluntarily contract it to push the poop out. That means the odds of you actually pooping on your partner mid act are very, very low, Dr.
Moritz says. When you poop, your body should expel all the stool in your rectum, but some fecal matter might get left behind. That said, no one needs to panic. As we just established, the chances of you pooping on your partner mid act are slim to none. Frankhouse says. He recommends only doing them once every few months and following the instructions every time.
Other than that, you can concentrate on external anal hygiene. Your rectum is designed to keep poop in with help from a muscle called the anal sphincter. This can make anal penetration a little challenging at first, Dr. You can start by asking your partner to give you a massage or do something else you know will loosen you up.
Then, when you feel cool, calm, and ready to start exploring anal play, you or your partner can use a finger or sex toy to massage the outside of your anus. This can help you get familiar with the sensation before any kind of penetration happens. Chinn says you can experiment with sticking a finger or sex toy in your anus bit by bit based on what feels good, using plenty of lube, of course. The exception is if they actually have a G. You can absolutely transmit and contract STIs via unprotected anilingus. Using a dental dam can help cut down on that risk.
Chinn says being on top might make first-time anal sex a little easier. That allows more control over how deep the penetration goes and how slowly it happens. You or your partner can also provide some added clitoral stimulation in these positions.
The G-spot is thought to be a cluster of vaginal, urethral, and clitoral tissues and nerves, Dr. While the exact location of this cluster varies from person to person, some people can feel it when they put pressure on the front vaginal wall, about one or two inches inside the vagina. With that said, if clitoral stimulation helps you orgasm, you or your partner can add that to the mix during anal to help you get there.
This chestnut-sized gland is located inside the pelvis, upward and behind the penis, between the bladder and rectum. Stimulating it can feel unbelievably good for some people, Dr. Frankhouse says, and can even result in orgasm. So to answer your question, can you orgasm from anal? This can help you avoid UTIs.
This advice still stands if your partner ejaculates inside you. Though some people worry this could cause runny poops that resemble diarrhea , Dr. Even if poop could go farther up into your colon, semen is usually runny. Since your anus will likely remain expanded for a few minutes after anal sex, that semen can just leak right on out, Dr. As long as you follow all the best practices we just covered, like lube, foreplay, and communication, anal sex is generally very safe.
According to Dr. That information is very necessary, but I refuse to end this on a kind of scary note. The truth is that you can have an excellent time with anal play. Or it could be the exact opposite of your thing, which is okay too. Do I really need to use lube? What about numbing creams? Is it safe? At SELF, Lindsey has specialized in culture, love, and sex, but also written about health, food, fitness, and beauty. Read more. SELF does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Any information published on this website or by this brand is not intended as a substitute for medical advice, and you should not take any action before consulting with a healthcare professional.